1. Remember this feeling will pass. Everything in life is transient and things will improve. Although it may not feel like it now – things will get better…

 

2. Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up over it. It’s understandable you feel the way you do – if you have been through a challenging time, most of us would be feeling the same way. Show yourself some understanding and compassion – we are all a work in progress and perfect just the way we are!

3. You are not alone. Don’t bottle up your feelings. Talk to someone else. If you share your situation with others you might be surprised by how many people have gone through a similar thing and may relate to your situation.

 

4. Take small steps. If it’s difficult to do the big things at the moment – that’s OK start small! Take short walks, eat small amounts and have little trips out or short conversations. Starting somewhere is better than not starting at all.

 

5. You will be happy again. I know it may not feel like it now but believe me (I’ve been there) you will feel happy and enjoy life again. Life is all about cycles and this is just one of them. You have to sometimes experience the lows to really appreciate the highs.

 

6. Remember happiness is a state of mind not a set of circumstances. Although you might have been going through a hard time it’s important to remember that it’s not the circumstance itself that is making you feel low. It’s your reaction to it.

 

7. Realise that you are the creator of your own thoughts. Become a conscious observer on what you are saying to yourself. Become aware of how often you are talking negatively to yourself – you might be surprised about how often that occurs. Remember our greatest weapon against feeling low is our ability to choose one thought over another. Choose wisely.

 

8. Turn your inner critic down. Imagine having the remote control to your own mind and turn down any negative self-talk. Just turn the sound down or perhaps change the channel completely and listen to some nice commentary instead for a change.

 

9. Don’t believe everything you think. Just because you think bad thoughts, it doesn’t mean they are all true. You wouldn’t write yourself a nasty letter so why allow yourself to constantly talk down to yourself?

 

10. Ask yourself would I talk to a friend in that way? If the answer is no then don’t speak to yourself in your own head in that way either. You would do well to remind yourself of how valuable and loveable you are. You deserve as much love and respect as the next person.

 

11. Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. More often than not we spend a lot of time focusing on what we don’t want and become an expert in this field! It’s important to remember that the subconscious does not care if we ‘seed’ thoughts that we perceive to be good or bad – it will nourish all of them equally well so it’s always best to concentrate on the best case scenario.

 

12. Live in the moment. Release the past and stop worrying about the future. The only thing really real is the here and now. Allow yourself to come back to the present and stop thinking about the other stuff. Becoming mindful of your current situation will allow you to restore balance and instantly feel better.

 

13. Let go of any regrets. As Robbie Williams once sand. ‘No regrets… they don’t work’… so true. Don’t keep yourself stuck in the past wondering ‘what if’. You have made the best choices you can and although it might not feel like it we are always on the right path. It just might feel a little rocky sometimes!

 

14. Don’t compare your life to others. The grass isn’t always greener even though it may appear that way. Everyone has their own cross to bear and probably more people than you realise around you are suffering from some kind of internal conflict or worry too.

 

15. Become aware of what is going right. Make a conscious effort every morning or evening to spend some time thinking about what is good in your life. It doesn’t have to be anything big it could just be remembering that you have great friends or a nice place to live or something nice happening that day.

 

16. Start a gratitude diary. Write a list of all the things which you are really grateful for. You will be amazed how many things you have that you take for granted every day. When you start focusing on what you have rather than what you don’t have. You open yourself up to receiving more.

 

17. Change your perspective. If something has happened in your life that has upset you like losing a job or splitting up from a loved one try and look at it from a different point of view. Although it might not seem like it now. Perhaps there is a better job or another partner just round the corner who will be even more suited to you and change your life for the better. Things aren’t always as they seem!

 

18. Eat healthily & take plenty of exercise. Often when we are feeling low our eating habits go to pot as well. It is important to make sure we have the right fuel going into our body and we are taking regular exercise which releases natural endorphins that make us feel better. Avoid stimulants like caffeine or alcohol too.

 

19. Don’t delay feeling good. Don’t fall into the trap of putting off feeling better until something changes in your life. Make the decision here and now to try and smile a little more today. Don’t wait for the better job, the better car, the better partner, the better life. Seize the moment today. Make today as best as it could be.

 

20. Breathe deeply from your abdomen. This simple exercise alone can calm you down in record time. Shallow breathing makes you feel more anxious. To calm yourself immediately begin by slowly breathing in through your nose to the count of 4. Then slowly exhale through your mouth for a count of 8. You know you are doing this properly if your stomach rises more than your chest as your diaphragm expands.

 

21. Remember your true core is very peaceful, loving and wise. Listen to this wisdom in the moments of still. You have all the answers and resources inside of you. Set aside some time to go into your own Wisdom Room inside you today.

 

Nearly all of us at some point in our life will experience low mood. Low mood is a normal reaction to loss, set-backs and failures that we all face from time to time. For most of us, our low mood passes relatively quickly and we can regain our sense of balance again in a short time.

An anxiety disorder or depression, on the other hand, is a problem that can often hang around for much longer periods of time, often causing much more disruption to our lives. Individuals who experience high level anxiety or depression may have a low mood, but may also experience problems with their concentration, memory, sleep, appetite, motivation, energy or extreme negative thinking.

Ironically, although anxiety & depression are very common in our society today it is still clouded by misunderstanding which can leave individuals feeling isolated or even worse.

At these times it can almost feel like falling into quicksand in which the more effort that is used to escape from it, the more stuck a person tends to feel. Although it may feel counterproductive, the best way to set yourself free (just like quicksand) is to allow yourself to be still rather than struggling against it.

*If you are unsure whether you have depression or an anxiety disorder, I would always recommend that you seek professional medical help first.